This picture says it all when it comes to how you think about your goals and dreams and what your mind tells you you can or cannot do. All of our lives we are constantly told that because you are this or that, you can only accomplish certain things or have a certain amount of success. This is not 100 % true because this is what we were taught as we were growing up, and what our family, friends, and enemies have said to us we chose to automatically believe, including myself. This has been a challenge in my life over time that I have had to work on to get better and to really challenge myself and my beliefs completely. To tell you the truth that is how I became a seriously big time reader and started to get really curious and ingest every kind of reading material I could read ranging from sports books to psychology and spiritual books.
I used to have the terrible habit of thinking that all of the good things in life just happened to “lucky” people or that it was for a select chosen few and that I could never attain those successes because it was for others. One day I had someone challenge that to me and told me that I could do things that I thought I couldn’t and that I was holding myself back and that I should have more faith in myself. He taught me a serious lesson and really woke me up to what I could achieve and that I did not have to feel this way and that I could control it.
After he snapped me out of it I started to put more effort into what I did because before when I felt that I was part of the “unlucky” ones I did not put my full effort into what I was doing because I genuinely felt that it did not matter and that no matter how hard I tried I was just destined to be an average no one. I was basically on autopilot. As I went on to put my heart and soul into the very things that I loved I found that I started to have more fulfillment with what I was doing and “success” started happening. This was one of the most influential lessons that I have ever learned and I am very grateful that it happened to me and I got a chance to snap out of it because if I didn’t who knows how terribly I would still be feeling and how little hope I would have.
This is why I have been so interested in reading books and reaching out to people to learn their stories whether it is of success or failures because there is a lesson in everything and I am fascinated by people’s perspective. I have felt just like everyone else has felt before and I believe everyone feels the same feelings at many times or another and over time I have realized whether that person is a millionaire or a bum, the feelings are the same and it is just how they react to them is what makes the difference.
My advice to you if you are doubting yourself currently like I have in the past on more than one occasion is to ask yourself a series of questions to reveal why you believe whatever it is you are believing and then ask if it is possible that you are wrong or you are telling yourself a fictional story. My example that I used to tell myself all of the time was, if I do not accomplish certain goals then no one will accept me for who I am or will like me because they will not want to be associated with me because I am not increasing their value. I found this to obviously be a fictional story I was telling myself and I would use it against me and if you can imagine how much unnecessary stress I put myself under for no reason. This is just one of many lessons I learned over time that I have worked on and I hope it can help you as well.
Any belief that causes you to think that you cannot do it…. challenge it and do not let it define you.
THERE IS SOMETHING POWERFUL ABOUT BEING AROUND OTHERS THAT HAVE THE SAME GOAL AS YOU, ESPECIALLY IF IT IS FOR THE GOOD OF PEOPLE. ACTUALLY CARING ABOUT OTHERS AND WANTING TO ADD VALUE IS EXCITING WHEN YOU ARE THINKING AND DREAMING ABOUT DOING IT ON YOUR OWN, BUT WHEN YOU FIND OTHER PEOPLE WHO HAVE THE SAME DESIRE IT IS INSPIRING TO SAY THE LEAST. SOMETIMES IN THE PAST I HAVE DOUBTED IF IT WAS POSSIBLE TO HAVE PEOPLE WHO WERE MORALLY “THERE” IN BUSINESS BECAUSE INHERENTLY IN BUSINESS SOMETIMES PEOPLE ARE NOT ETHICAL WITH THEIR CHOICES OR DO NOT HAVE OTHERS BEST INTERESTS IN MIND. TO ME I THINK THAT A BUSINESS AND A ORGANIZATION SHOULD BE A PLACE WHERE THE TEAM FEELS THAT THEY ARE SAFE, TAKEN CARE OF, AND ENCOURAGED TO GROW SO THAT SOCIETY CAN HAVE A CHANCE TO EXPERIENCE MORE GOOD THINGS. I FEEL THAT BUSINESS SHOULD BE SOMETHING THAT EMPOWERS EVERYONE THAT COMES INTO CONTACT WITH IT. I BELIEVE THAT WHEN THE HEART IS IN THE RIGHT PLACE YOU ATTRACT THE RIGHT PEOPLE TO FOLLOW THE VISION. IN THE BEGINNING I DID NOT HAVE 100 % FAITH BECAUSE OF PAST EXPERIENCES BUT NOW I AM A COMPLETE BELIEVER.
MY DREAM IS TO PUT TOGETHER A TEAM OF PEOPLE THAT OUR ENERGY AND INTENTION IS SO STRONG WITH POSITIVITY THAT IT CAN LITERALLY CHANGE PEOPLE’S LIVES AND HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT THEMSELVES. TO BE ABLE TO GIVE HOPE TO THOSE WHO LIKE MYSELF AT TIMES MAY HAVE DOUBTED IF THERE WERE ANY GOOD PEOPLE LEFT IN THE WORLD. I WANT OUR TEAM AND COMPANY TO BE LIVING PROOF THAT IT IS THERE AND THAT IT IS POSSIBLE TO HAVE NOT JUST ONE PERSON, BUT A LARGE GROUP OF PEOPLE, HAVE YOUR BEST INTERESTS IN MIND AS WELL AS EACH OTHERS INTERESTS IN MIND BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT I FEEL LIFE IS ABOUT. LIFE IS NOT ABOUT ONLY MATERIAL POSSESSIONS, LIFE IS ABOUT CONTRIBUTING TO A LARGER CAUSE THAT IS BIGGER THAN YOURSELF AND NOT LETTING MEDIA DICTATE YOUR TRUE FEELINGS.